My cup of coffee is empty.
Don't even have a cig lit.
The (Good) Reasons to Forgive Your Guy/Girl for Cheating
September 28, 2007"A cheater cheats himself"
So why am I writing this? Because it happens or maybe happening to some right now. Let's get to facts (thought I hate cheating).
Been there, done that? Almost but not quite? Well, I'm just thankful that God gives me strength and keeps me away from temptations. Plus, I would find it hard to fix things. I'm not ready to face consequences it if happens to me, too.
From a girls point of view, I will enumerate reasons.
1. Long-distance love
It's hard - the distance, the longing, the 'I need-you-but-you're-not-here-physically' thing. There are many who gives up.
2. Attention
Who doesn't love it? Even, I would be the first to raise my hand and say 'yes'. I want attention.
You know, your guy/girl is busy. It's mushy you've been together for so long and now you're still looking for attention. There are so many things to attend to… REASONS.
3. There are things 'new' to the 'other' person
It's the opposite of the word 'boring' or being bored to what you're used to.
Many would say, 'we do the same things over and over again'. And this other person shows you that there is this world outside which is new and interesting! And you're tired of just dinner in a resto, hanging out at the mall, watch movies…
4. The excitement
To support number 4. So this is the 'term'. Adrenalins rushing. Hearts pumping. The feeling is intense. There's (temporary) happiness and satisfaction. And it's like playing hide-and-seek!
5. 'I'm drunk!'
Excuses, excuses. He/she will say 'I was weak' or I'm under the influence of 'whatever-that-**** is' 'And I'm sooo sorry for doing this' 
The fix? You end your relationship or you give the person the chance. That depends if you believe in 'once a cheater, always a cheater' saying.
To sum it up, giving the person one last chance is a risk. Because it's hard to forgive and harder to forget.
6. Holding Back
If your partner is holding back on to something. May it be emotionally or physically… Confused with what you have right now. You seek for someone who doesn’t hold back. Who gives it all.
7. Next Level
As differentiated with boredom, you still actually enjoy doing the stuff you do. But we don’t always get everything. So the “lacking” part tends to be supplied by another person. This might be the physical or the conversational aspect that you don’t get from your partner. This supplementary thing that you have leads to attraction and you eventually get blinded by your emotions.
Relationships needs to be dynamic. It should evolve. It should never relax and be contented to the status quo just to avoid problems or petty fights.
Hehe….
Posted by Sayko at October 9, 2007, 2:48 pm